“Accept Negative Emotions”

A core tenet of EFT, and our Hold Me Tight Seattle Couples Workshops – Accepting Negative Emotions “Instead of backing away from negative emotions, accept them. Acknowledge how you are feeling without rushing to change your emotional state.” And,...

He Quietly Reaches For You.

He quietly reaches for you. Your tears of pain, of hurt, of confusion and self loathing. Your tears of sadness. For the son who seems out of reach. For the father who never truly saw you. Tears for the mother and husband who in their own fear failed to help. Failed to...

Healing comes from a new feeling, not new insight!

Emotional, psychological hurt lodges in the deep recesses of our unconscious memory. Traumatic hurt of the type visited upon us by chronic insults to the quality of our security, both as children and as adults, lodges in places in our brain which cognitive behavioral...

“I know that must be tough.”

As someone who has struggled with the “you’re not good enough” voice for his entire life, hearing my partner shift this morning from, “you don’t have to figure that out,” to “I know that must be tough” instantly moved me...

My life is not a beer commercial!

At 12 sessions in a mid 40’s male client shredding through primary shame implanted via his relationship with a profoundly neglectful father and a mother cowed by father’s narcissistic behavior shared, “I am coming to terms that my life is not...

“You need to change!”

“Forget about the notion that our emotions can be kept at bay” Dave Matthews   Walking this morning and pondering the hard lessons that creating fundament shift in relationship is deeply challenging with only one trying to change. This hard lesson is...