Without connection no real progress in therapy is possible.

As an Emotion Focused Therapist my first and perhaps most import task is to create a trusted connection between myself and my clients. Without a trusted connection no real progress in therapy can be made. This video from the Cleveland Clinic so poignantly captures...

Trapped in the “Spin Cycle!”

We all know what it feels like to have emotion take over. We or our partner becomes too assertive, or conversely withdrawn. We have just entered the  “spin cycle.” In the “spin cycle,” pursuers ramp up their efforts. At first they attempt to...

How do we “let go?”

I am coming to learn, sometimes the hard way, that it is very difficult to “let things go!” For me to let something go, I must first feel, feel, feel…the pain in order to heal the pain. Denying pain, sorrow, hopelessness, disconnection can work for a...

Moments of Change in Emotion Focused Couples Therapy

My thought on blogging is to not to write long entries that demonstrate my wisdom as an EFT Couples and Individual Therapist, but to offer, on occasion, some of the simple and profund truths that emerge during key change moment as I work with couples and individuals....