“You need to change!”

“Forget about the notion that our emotions can be kept at bay” Dave Matthews Walking this morning and pondering the hard lessons that creating fundament shift in relationship is deeply challenging with only one trying to change. This hard lesson is coming...

“Love is NOT a mystery!”

Despite what zillions of individuals believe, write prose and poetry about, sing, clash, fight and sadly even kill about, “Love is NOT a mystery!” It is a survival code deeply wired into our DNA, and the DNA of all mammals. It is a language. This language...

“I can’t go back to that fake feeling!”

“We’ve both been living this fake relationship for years. I can’t be real in relationship with you until I know me and truly know you…it’s not going to be fast..but I can’t go back to that fake feeling!” Want Loving, Caring,...

“Accepted from F’d Up to Fabulous!”

“I now know that I want to be accepted for who I am from “F’d Up to Fabulous!” – male client of Joseph’s. If acceptance of your “Whole Self” is a goal of yours in relationship… Join Cynthia Benge and I for: Hold Me...

“I leaned into my fear and the fever broke!”

After 10 months of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the female partner of a couple who came into therapy reeling from an infidelity and an reactive domestic violence who was able to lean into a very old fear and stay engaged with her partner. When questioned,...