I recently studied with Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., a leading clinician and researcher on Trauma/PTSD and chronic relational trauma, to which many of us are exposed in childhood.
A core takeaway: help your friends, family and loved ones “calm down” with non-judgmental, non-defensive listening and empathy. Stay back from “fix-it.”
As an Emotion Focused Therapist, I wholeheartedly endorse Bessel’s viewpoint. Not hard to understand, often challenging to do!