About Joseph Losi
My Approach to Counseling, My Approach to Life.
A Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and a active member of Seattle EFT, I am an EFT couples therapist fully certified by the International Centre of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I am also an EFT Level 2 Individual Therapist. My approach is founded upon Attachment Theory, the idea that how we bond as adults is connected to the quality of our relationship with our original caregivers.
My goal in therapy is to help couples, men and women cultivate a greater awareness, acceptance and regulation of emotion, thought and behavior. I assist clients in becoming fully aware of core emotions and the disconnecting behaviors that result when they are unrecognized and unshared. We work together to help you develop the ability to communicate in ways that will foster increased connection and intimacy with in your relationships. In this process, you can gain a more meaningful understanding of how you interact with your partner or spouse, and other close people in your life. In gentle and powerful ways my clients come to understand how it is that they have become distant from once cherished loved ones—and how to grow a safer, more accepting and secure connection to yourself and to those with whom you are in relationship.
I also support couples through divorce coaching. My goal is to help you reduce expensive legal costs and mediate a resolution that puts your children front and center, if you have them. I apply my dispute resolution training and Emotion-Focused approach to help couples navigate this difficult task.
I am open to and affirming of people of all races, sexual and gender identities and ages.
A Bit about Me
Born in Buffalo, NY in 1955, I have made Seattle my home and community for more than two decades. Very happily re-married on September 12 of 2015, I continue to have a very good relationship with my former wife. Together we co-parent two young men, ages 25 and 21, through times of both great pleasure and personal challenge.
My personal life journey has led me from my hometown to Salt Lake City, Utah, to Eugene, Ore., and finally to Seattle. I am the fifth of six children, and very happy to have three older sisters, who taught me much about being both bold and nurturing. I completed a bachelor’s degree in communication with an emphasis in broadcast management at the University of Utah in the late 70’s, which led to a 20-year career in public and commercial radio. My most memorable time was at KUER-FM, the NPR affiliate in Salt Lake City, where I programmed and produced jazz radio. After moving to Seattle in the 1990s, I continued this career on the fundraising side, serving as Director of Corporate Development for KPLU, Tacoma’s NPR affiliate. I then applied my fundraising skills to preserve some of our state’s most beautiful places, serving as a major donor fundraiser for Conservation Northwest.
Looking for greater personal fulfillment, I returned to school and completed the graduate program in counseling psychology at Antioch University Seattle, with a concentration in Child, Couple and Family Therapy in June 2010.
Today, I find much challenge and joy in helping the people with whom I work come to know themselves, their spouses, their partners and children in more authentic, courageous and vulnerable ways. And I am humbled to walk with them on their path to greater happiness with self and others.
Ready to Get Started?
“This guy can help. Really. Joseph took us back to ground zero in our relationship and guided us to new patterns of connecting. Now, at our most vulnerable moments, we make it through difficult situations and stay connected and loving. (We call these “Joseph moments.”) He really connected with both of us, but brings a special understanding for how afraid most men feel of therapy. He can get to underlying emotions without humiliating either partner. Great sense of empathy and humor, too!”
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“Our work is not getting to the light at the end of the tunnel. Our work is being with our fear in the tunnel and not bolting.”
– Joseph Losi