About Joseph Losi
Develop authentic, connected, and rewarding relationships.
I help couples, men and women cultivate a greater awareness, acceptance and regulation of their emotions, which leads to greater peace and stability.
When we bury difficult emotions without feeling through them, acknowledging them or accepting them, the wounds continue to fester and make themselves known through our anger, reactivity, anxiety, depression, addictions. The harm can impact all our relationships—and ourselves. When we face the emotions we’ve been holding on to, and share them in a safe space with ourselves or our partners, the deep healing begins and more intimate relationships follow.
Together, we’ll work to open up what’s “below the waterline” and help you develop the ability to communicate in ways that foster increased connection and intimacy within all of your relationships.
My approach to cultivating change is rooted in Emotionally Focused therapy, developed by Sue Johnson, but I also draw on mindfulness and internal family systems to support your healing and awareness.
Attachment theory—the idea that how we bond as adults is connected to the quality of our relationship with our original caregivers—is foundational to all my work.
My goal is to cultivate trust and safety through deep listening and gentle guidance. I will be honest, empathetic and may compassionately push you towards facing your difficult truths. I aim to be a supportive presence on this powerful, personal journey.
I welcome and affirm people of all races, sexual and gender identities and ages.
- Fully certified Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) couples therapist
- EFT Level 2 individual therapist
- Clinical fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
- Master of Arts degree in Child, Couple and Family Therapy, Antioch University, Seattle, 2010
A Bit about Me
I grew up in a large Sicilian family in Buffalo, New York, as the fifth of six children, with three older sisters who taught me much about being both bold and nurturing. I’ve spent most of my adult life out West, and Seattle has been my home for more than two decades. I’m in a wonderful second marriage with a partner who has pushed my own emotional growth, and I hers—EFT in action for both of us! My former wife and I still have a good relationship and co-parented two sons, now in their 20s and 30s, through times of both great pleasure and personal challenge.
Before being a therapist, I had a 20-year career in public and commercial radio. My most memorable time was at KUER-FM, the NPR affiliate in Salt Lake City, where I programmed and produced a jazz radio show. After moving to Seattle in the 1990s, I served as the Director of Corporate Development for KPLU, now KNKX. I then applied these skills to preserve some of our state’s most beautiful places, serving as a major donor fundraiser for Conservation Northwest.
Looking for greater personal fulfillment, I returned to school in 2007 to become a therapist. After more than a decade of practice, I still find much joy in helping the people with whom I work come to know themselves and their loved ones in more authentic, courageous and vulnerable ways. And I continue to be humbled to walk with them on their path to greater happiness with self and others.
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“This guy can help. Really. Joseph took us back to ground zero in our relationship and guided us to new patterns of connecting. Now, at our most vulnerable moments, we make it through difficult situations and stay connected and loving. (We call these “Joseph moments.”) He really connected with both of us, but brings a special understanding for how afraid most men feel of therapy. He can get to underlying emotions without humiliating either partner. Great sense of empathy and humor, too!”
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“Our work is not getting to the light at the end of the tunnel. Our work is being with our fear in the tunnel and not bolting.”
– Joseph Losi