Hold Me Tight Seattle

A Weekend for Couples Who Want to Strengthen and Deepen Their Relationship, Connection and Intimacy October 18–20, 2013 The Westin Hotel, Downtown Seattle Space is Limited. Details at: Hold Me Tight Seattle

When helping hurts

Many of the couples I work with bring in troubles produced by parenting style. Here is a very well written article that speaks to the potential effects of “over-parenting.” from=opinion...

“I felt like a real person!”

After five and a half decades of swallowing feelings of hurt, rejection, sadness,  a break through moment into becoming the woman she has always known was missing was deeply felt as the wife of a couple I have been working with was able to tell her husband, “I...

Recent presentation on Anger and its effect on relationship

Recently presented on Anger and its roll in relationship to the Divorce Support Group at University Presbyterian Church in Seattle. Steve Elde, Pastoral Care Associate of UPC shares; “With his insights and his understanding of how people react to emotions in...

Without connection no real progress in therapy is possible.

As an Emotion Focused Therapist my first and perhaps most import task is to create a trusted connection between myself and my clients. Without a trusted connection no real progress in therapy can be made. This video from the Cleveland Clinic so poignantly captures...

Trapped in the “Spin Cycle!”

We all know what it feels like to have emotion take over. We or our partner becomes too assertive, or conversely withdrawn. We have just entered the  “spin cycle.” In the “spin cycle,” pursuers ramp up their efforts. At first they attempt to...