“When you slow down one can truly begin to recognize that others or things are not the true source of our distress. Our reaction to others, particularly intimate others, or things is the source of our distress. But, and this is a significant but, others, again...
“I am really beginning again to feel him with me.” Captured in that simple, heartfelt comment from Jamie is the essence of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, or EFT. Yet not four months earlier, they were on the brink of divorce. She had asked him to move out, he...
With the fundamental help of Developmental Psychologist, Ed Tronick, Phd, the creator of the “Still Face,” experiment, Sue Johnson, the primary creator of EFT, continues to show us how the power of emotion organizes moments of disconnection and connection...
Yesterday after a good number of EFT couples session: “It just rips my heart to hear that she feels that way.” What do you do? “I try and help, I tell her, “you need to get out of the house, you can’t just sit around” I ask P, how...
He quietly reaches for you. Your tears of pain, of hurt, of confusion and self loathing. Your tears of sadness. For the son who seems out of reach. For the father who never truly saw you. Tears for the mother and husband who in their own fear failed to help. Failed to...
Emotional, psychological hurt lodges in the deep recesses of our unconscious memory. Traumatic hurt of the type visited upon us by chronic insults to the quality of our security, both as children and as adults, lodges in places in our brain which cognitive behavioral...
