The Healing of Upset

“When you slow down one can truly begin to recognize that others or things are not the true source of our distress. Our reaction to others, particularly intimate others, or things is the source of our distress. But, and this is a significant but, others, again...

He Quietly Reaches For You.

He quietly reaches for you. Your tears of pain, of hurt, of confusion and self loathing. Your tears of sadness. For the son who seems out of reach. For the father who never truly saw you. Tears for the mother and husband who in their own fear failed to help. Failed to...

My life is not a beer commercial!

At 12 sessions in a mid 40’s male client shredding through primary shame implanted via his relationship with a profoundly neglectful father and a mother cowed by father’s narcissistic behavior shared, “I am coming to terms that my life is not...

“You need to change!”

“Forget about the notion that our emotions can be kept at bay” Dave Matthews   Walking this morning and pondering the hard lessons that creating fundament shift in relationship is deeply challenging with only one trying to change. This hard lesson is...

“Love is NOT a mystery!”

Despite what zillions of individuals believe, write prose and poetry about, sing, clash, fight and sadly even kill about, “Love is NOT a mystery!” It is a survival code deeply wired into our DNA, and the DNA of all mammals. It is a language. This language...

“I can’t go back to that fake feeling!”

“We’ve both been living this fake relationship for years. I can’t be real in relationship with you until I know me and truly know you…it’s not going to be fast..but I can’t go back to that fake feeling!” Want Loving, Caring,...