As someone who has struggled with the “you’re not good enough” voice for his entire life, hearing my partner shift this morning from, “you don’t have to figure that out,” to “I know that must be tough” instantly moved me from, “crap… I am still getting it wrong,” to “oh, you get it how I wake up at 3am (on occasion) wondering how best to understand a problem in my life as a therapist, father, partner.” That shift from “you don’t” to “I know,” felt like the validation, the understanding, the connection, the secure love and secure attachment I missed early in life and have been wanting and needing in my life. I felt it blossom in my heart.
I see you! I am here for you! I am responsive and engaged with you! Simple in concept, oft times difficult to manifest.