A very lovely moment occurred during a couple session a few days ago. 18 sessions in to Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, a couple who came to me to address infidelity (on the husbands part – the penultimate behavior of disconnection, a disconnection that had been brewing for many many years) shared the following; the wife turned to her husband and said, “Ya know I always knew that we loved each other, but now I am falling back in love with you.”
Couples can repair after an infidelity. Infidelity is code for a broken pattern of communication. Once the code is addressed and cracked repair can happen. Relationships can actually be more intimate, more fulfilling, and more authentic. It does take a great deal of work rebuilding vulnerable, emotionally honest communication. The return of trust is possible.