“I know that must be tough.”

As someone who has struggled with the “you’re not good enough” voice for his entire life, hearing my partner shift this morning from, “you don’t have to figure that out,” to “I know that must be tough” instantly moved me...

“You need to change!”

“Forget about the notion that our emotions can be kept at bay” Dave Matthews Walking this morning and pondering the hard lessons that creating fundament shift in relationship is deeply challenging with only one trying to change. This hard lesson is coming...

“I can’t go back to that fake feeling!”

“We’ve both been living this fake relationship for years. I can’t be real in relationship with you until I know me and truly know you…it’s not going to be fast..but I can’t go back to that fake feeling!” Want Loving, Caring,...

The Military’s Latest Rape-Case Mess!

“This is harassment. It has to stop!” Female Midshipmen’s attorney to military prosecutors during Rape trial. Revolution in Relationship, sees Rape & Sexual Harassment as a tragic outcome of Dominating Behavior not only between the sexes, but...

“Accepted from F’d Up to Fabulous!”

“I now know that I want to be accepted for who I am from “F’d Up to Fabulous!” – male client of Joseph’s. If acceptance of your “Whole Self” is a goal of yours in relationship… Join Cynthia Benge and I for: Hold Me...

“I leaned into my fear and the fever broke!”

After 10 months of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the female partner of a couple who came into therapy reeling from an infidelity and an reactive domestic violence who was able to lean into a very old fear and stay engaged with her partner. When questioned,...